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My annual advice as someone who turned a disastrous lifestyle around: if you try to start a dozen new habits on January 1st, you will get overwhelmed and fail all of them.
If you have a list of things like “shower every day”, “go to bed before midnight”, “keep up my duolingo streak” etc, pick ONE, the most urgent one that will improve your life the most, and don’t worry about the others until you’ve gotten the hang of it. Build up to your resolutions over the year
Can we have the shower thing out of competition, please? It will be more pleasant for everyone involved this way.
@SaltyMonk I do not understand what you mean, there is no competition going on here anywhere
Meaning that showering regularly shouldn’t compete with going to bed or Duolingo for hygienic reasons. It should just be done.
@SaltyMonk @0xabad1dea "disabled people should just stop being disabled" thanks, I'll take that advice into consideration, it's probably very helpful
@raphaelmorgan
Whom are you citing here? I certainly didn't speak about a specific group of people.
On a side note: I don't appreciate your sarcasm. It doesn't transport well through a written medium.
@raphaelmorgan@disabled.social@SaltyMonk @0xabad1dea anyone who has a hard time showering every day is probably disabled in some way, if "only" depression. If someone sets a new year's resolution to shower every day, it means they appreciate the value in showering every day but struggle to. Which probably means they're disabled. I don't know who else you could have been referring to.
@raphaelmorgan
Hi Morgan, I appreciate you taking time to answer me.
As a matter of fact, I was voicing my preference of hygiene over duolingo in a rather light-hearted tone. Or so I thought.
I seem to have penetrated a bubble of people who are sharing a specific context here, which obviously leads to interpretations of my words that are rather alien to me.
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That being said: I don't think of anyone who struggles to shower daily as disabled. It is totally okay that our opinions differ here. Maybe we just define disabled differently, maybe we come from a totally different school of thought.
And for what it's worth: From second and first hand experience, I don't see a difference between psychological and physical illnesses.
@SaltyMonk @0xabad1dea frankly it doesn't matter if you see me as disabled, I still am. "Struggling to shower daily" is not inherently a disability, but it usually is the result of one. Your definition of disabled is not what determines whether a sentiment is ablest, when your definition of disabled differs from that of actual disabled people. You don't get to decide for us whether we count as disabled.
@raphaelmorgan
Well, I never talked about you. I don't think I ever used the word "you" in our conversation, If I recall correctly. I don't know you, I don't know anything about you. Therefore, I neither see you as disabled nor not disabled, I only know you by the words you wrote here.
If you feel personally agitated by my words, let me say this: I didn't think about you when I wrote them.
What do you mean by ableist?
@SaltyMonk @0xabad1dea "I don't think of anyone who struggles to shower daily as disabled" is what you said.
When you use "anyone" and describe a group I am included in, I assume I am included in your statement. Otherwise you should have said "some people" or just not said that.
Ableism is bigotry, discrimination, or bias against disabled people. It can take the form of expecting us to simply act like we aren't disabled, e.g. by Just Showering Every Day. Or by saying we're not REALLY disabled
Thank you for correcting my English here. I probably should have written: "I don't think of anyone who struggles to shower daily as being disabled per se."
I wish you a good night!