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@Kaonarose@disabled.socialExisting in public as a fat person sucks. Tired of people making shitty comments and noises at me when I'm just out minding my own business. Long trauma history, an eating disorder, and chronic pain have made me this way. I'm trying to lose weight, I've lost 46 lbs. I don't get how people feel it's okay to treat me like shit because of my weight. I hate that it's socially acceptable to ridicule me, but if I were to ridicule them for something about their looks, I would be the asshole. #Fatphobia
@Kaonarose I'm sorry, yes this! Fellow fat person here so I relate. I'm sorry people were so awful. You deserve better. 
@Pawpower Thank you. I'm sorry that you can relate. Some people really suck! I'm trying to tell myself that the way they treat me reflects more on them than me. When I really think about it, who sees a disabled person walking using a walker and a service dog and their first thought is to mock them for their weight? WTF.
@Kaonarose Yes this is important to keep in mind, the person has their own weight related issues in their own mind and turning the business end of their feelings on you is easier for them than facing their own issues and that really sucks and is bullshit unfair and hurtful. The most important thing is that you feel good in your own body and if you don't then to try and find out why and to fix it . That is a process that isn't easy and takes a lot of time and resources and energy
@Kaonarose I fractured my spine in 2022 and hit a seriously low point in my lung disease journey. I have been working on my body for almost 2 years and I'm still not where I want to be. People still say shitty things to me and it sucks but I just keep pushing forward and reminding myself that I'm doing this for me and my girls and our future. If people just look at me and all they see is a fat person who is lazy and whatever moral failing they attribute to me well thats on them.
@Pawpower I'm sorry that people are also shitty to you! It's awful. They also have no idea what caused us to get to this point weight wise. Contrary to popular belief, it's not always just laziness and overeating! A spine fracture sounds super painful, I'm sorry you dealt with that. And also lung disease, oof! I'm still working on my body too, it's just extra challenging compared to when I was younger and much healthier physical illness and mental health wise. Pain really impacts what I can do.
@Kaonarose For me, it has helped to take numbers out of the picture. I don't want to know what I weigh, it isn't good for my mental health. Same for calories counting. I know that exercise is helping increase stamina and endurance. I know I'm losing weight at the rate I'm replacing my pants but I hate being congratulated or for people to mention it because I just feel objectified. I have had to really get into my own head and figure out what works for me. It's been hard.
@Pawpower It is really rough. I have to put limits on how often I weigh myself, or I get super obsessive.